For many, Mother’s Day comes with mixed feelings.
There are those of us who have suffered the loss of a mother, or child.
For those who have suffered loss recently holidays such as Mother’s Day can hurt deeply.
If this is what you are going through all the media and commercials could be getting to you.
Just know you are not alone.
While nothing can take the pain away you are still a mother or daughter.
Losing a child does not make you less of a mother.
Losing your mother does not diminish what you felt for her.
You are still a daughter.
It hurts not being able to give your mother a special gift.
It hurts to know your child will not be making you a card to hang on the fridge.
Through the pain, there are ways to honor your mother or child on Mother’s Day.
If you have lost a parent or child you can do something to honor them. Something they would have loved, or something that reminds you of them.
Something they would have loved, or something that reminds you of them.
By doing so it could help you heal.
There are things that live through loss.
Love is the strongest.
We also never lose what we have learned from them.
Honor your loved one on Mother’s Day with one of the following ideas, or one of your own. Perhaos the list will inspire you.
1. Participate in their favorite activity.
If your mother enjoyed gardening get outside and plant a tree in their honor. If you have lost a child that loved bathtime take a long hot soak. It is okay to let the tears fall as you remember them.
It is okay to let the tears fall as you remember them.
Tears are healthy when you are greiving. Even if you have been through the grieving process special days like Mother’s Day can bring the emotions back out.
2. Host a party in their honor.
Invite their friends, family, and loved ones to gather and celebrate their life. Have a cake, snacks, and make a toast in their memory.
Guests can talk and tell stories about their memories of your loved one.
Have each guest write a loving memory or a kind word about your loved one. Have them put their paper in a decorative vase. Each time you are missing your loved one you can pull out a memory out and read it.
3. Make a Shadowbox with their favorite trinkets.
Shadowboxes can be decorative and beautiful. They are meant to hold meaningful items.
Nothing is more meaningful than the trinkets of your loved one.
From a broach to their favorite handkerchief. Their first pacifier, or a clipping from their favorite blanket. Placing these cherished items into a shadowbox is a wonderful way to remember them and honor them by always having a part of them close by.
4. Volunteer at their favorite charity or a charity that is meaningful to their life, or passing.
My grandmother passed away one year ago of Alzheimer’s. Volunteering for a group that gives to Alzheimer’s research is perfect for my mother and me. She also spent her last days, comfortably at a hospice house. We could choose to volunteer there too.
When I was younger, I lost a child to a neurological disease. I can honor her by donating to charity for her condition.
Giving back is always a beautiful way to honor a loved one who has passed.
5. Name a star after your loved one.
To me, this is such a beautiful way to remember a loved one.
I want to be clear: There is absolutely no legal or legitimate star naming service out there. No matter who a site may claim to be in line with such as NASA. No matter how official the site may sound. Yes, a star is named in honor of your loved one. That star is only a number, however. Stars are assigned numbers and logged in multiple registries through multiple organizations. Naming a star for your loved one should only be done because in your heart it holds meaning.
Yes, you will be given the location of your star. That is legitimate. You will be able to look up into the night sky and see your star, but technically, you do not have “ownership” over the star itself.
Even so, I do not care about the intricate details personally. I think it is a lovely idea, and since I am a star gazer I love the idea of looking up and remembering my loved ones.