I receive a lot of questions in messages on my Facebook Fan Page, and in person about me as a blogger.
Some of these questions are more personal about me while others are more about the blogging experience.
I have compiled a list of questions from those private messages, and questions asked by family and friends in person.
I also asked on my Fan Page what people wanted to know.
You can, however, find two other About Me articles on the blog.
The first is my general “About” page listing which is found on most every blog.
Then you can also read 20 Things about me which is more fun and care free.
Today we have You Asked, I Answer.
Your “interview” questions and my replies”
Disclosure: Affiliate links are used in this article.
Leigh Anne asks:
What do you do to keep yourself in the game? Meaning do you ever get tired of blogging and how do you refresh?
I do not get tired of blogging so much as the work outside of the writing process. It’s not that I get tired of that either but it all can be exhausting. I have worked more jobs than I am proud to mention I have to say blogging is the hardest job I have ever had. That is not to discourage others from starting a blog I just wish I had done more research about it before jumping in!
To refresh I often call my mother who just lives around the corner and we run errands together. Sometimes we will get a bite to eat, or do our shopping. Sometimes I just take a drive, cuddle my pets, or hang out outside with a glass of tea. I do have to remind myself to take breaks. I am a tough boss!
Thank you for your question, Leigh Anne.
What keeps you going in the blogging world? 🙂
There are a few things that keep me going. One is that this is my career. I retired from my previous job to blog full time. So this is my only source of income other than my husband. I find that I enjoy blogging.
My previous job was life coaching. I spent a great deal of time working to empower others. After doing that for over two decades I needed to do something new.
I try to bring some of that over here on Fashion Beyond Forty. That is why I have the empowerment/enlightenment section on the blog. It’s an important topic to me. Blogging is also fun. I have met so many wonderful people, people like you through blogging.
Thank you, Shelby, for your question. Shelby has her own blog For The Love of Paws.
Please check her out!
I wanted to know, what’s your favorite article of clothing you ever got?
Oh, Shelley, I knew you would have a great question about fashion! This is a fun one, but a hard one too! I get to showcase so many wonderful brands and styles on Fashion Beyond Forty.
It is so difficult to pick one item. I can say that that the dress I am wearing in my logo and header was an item I received to blog about. It is actually one of my favorite dresses. It fits like a dream because it was custom fitted to my measurements. Plus, it has pockets! I love a dress with pockets.
The dress is from eShakti although sadly I do not believe it is available any longer.
Thank you for asking Shelley!
Sara of Sensibly Sarah – Family Food and Fun Asks:
Have you always been into fashion? Why did you make that your blog focus?
This is also a great question. I have always been into fashion. When I was younger, shortly after high school I enrolled in a school to become a fashion designer. Sadly the school went out of business a year later. It was like a small cosmetology school. I probably should have checked into it more. Still, I loved learning what I did.
In the 1980’s and 1990’s, I was all about fashion and being on trend.
Then I had children and like most moms, my focus was on them.
The whole reason Fashion Beyond Forty was started was to get me out of my own slump. To start thinking and taking action on rebuilding myself, my own self-image, and wardrobe!
I began to care about how I looked again, and I began to feel better about myself. Too many of us let ourselves go and make big sacrifices for those we love. It really isn’t necessary although sometimes budget comes into play.
That is why I make it my goal on Fashion Beyond Forty to showcase all types of fashion from super affordable to the higher end.
Every woman can look and feel great no matter her budget. Granted my blog is aimed at women over 40. The reason for that, outside of my own age, is because we hit a turning point around 40 where we can become lost on what women our age “can” or “should” wear.
I want to break through and dispel myths that women over 40 can’t look amazing, have fun with fashion, and rock trends!
Thank you, Sarah! Great question thank you for asking! Sorry for the long answer.
So Many Great Questions!
Let’s keep going!
What drew you to fashion? Were you always into that or did you get into later in life?
To be honest, I am not sure what drew me to fashion. I have had to think long and hard about this. It is possible, and likely it was movies! Growing up in the 80’s and being a young adult in the 90’s we had so many wonderful movies with fashion as a focus. I was also into old black and white movies all through my 20’s. We know that fashion in the old-time movies is stunning!
Another influence would be my mother. She made most all of my clothes when I was little. I so wish I still had those dresses! Some of them were matching mother-daughter dresses.
The fashion bug may also be something one is born with. Fashion is a wonderful way to use self-expression. As someone with past experience in theater and film, fashion is just another way to express my self.
Thank you, Vera, for a very insightful question. I enjoyed pondering that one!
Bill asks the question:
The one question I always ask first. How did you get into blogging?
When I was doing life coaching and spiritual guidance work I started a blog for that. I wanted to help support people with articles on topics I often faced with my clients. I knew absolutely nothing about blogging. My guidance blog was horrible! The articles themselves were very helpful. I still get a lot of visitors to that site.
The problem was I knew nothing about how to market the blog. Nothing of SEO, or the technical side of blogging. I never belonged to any blogger groups. Blogger groups were not something I even realized existed!
Basically, I would go in and write my posts, and there they would sit. No pushing them out into the world for anyone to see. They were found however which is wonderful because I truly wanted to help people.
That was my first experience with blogging.
When I started Fashion Beyond Forty it was my primary focus and business. Unlike my spiritual blog which was just an extension of my work with clients. I believe by this time there was a lot more information about blogging, how-to’s, groups, and so forth. This information was not difficult to find by then. It has still taken a lot of time and effort, however, to get Fashion Beyond Forty to where it is today.
With that said, I am still learning something new each day about blogging, and how to do it better. I do not consider myself anywhere near where I can be. That is another thing I love about blogging and what keeps me at it. I know I need to keep pushing myself to hit that glass ceiling of perfection. I get bored easily so having a career path that pushes me is what I need in life.
Sorry I got a little sidetracked there Bill. Clearly a great question!
Amazing Questions So Far!
These are really making me dig deep! I love it! Here are some more:
How much time do you spend blogging? Is this your main job?
Absolutely and I am glad it is!
To be successful at blogging it takes a great deal of time and dedication. I absolutely commend those who do it as a second job. Moms who blog are amazing, especially if they also work out of the home too! I do not think I could juggle all of that.
My kids are young adults now so I have ample time to focus on blogging full time. Yet, I still never get all I need to get done in a day!
I do still have a handful of long time life coaching and spiritual clients who I serve. Blogging, however, is my main job if we look at it as a time-based thing. I spend anywhere from 10 to 14 hours a day blogging. Life coaching about 10 hours total per week which is spread out. Those 10 to 14 hours per week are not all spent writing content. Most of those hours are spent marketing, learning how to refine the look of my blog and research.
There is a lot that goes on having nothing to do with writing. This is one of those areas in which I knew more before I started! I would have known more about time management from the get go!
Thank you so much, Mary, for that great question!
What do you like the most about blogging?
So many things!
The ability to help and empower others is one main thing. Another thing I love about blogging is that it has changed me in so many ways! I have become my best me while creating Fashion Beyond Forty.
The creative process is something my soul needs that I get from blogging. An always changing process of learning how to use SEO, how to make my blog better pushes me. Blogging forces me to step outside my comfort zone, try new things, and meet new people. While most of my work is done from home I have met some amazing fellow bloggers online.
The best thing about blogging is that I never get bored! As soon as I learn and think I have mastered something there is more. Things change in the blogging world that I need to update my knowledge on.
I am looking forward to my first blog conference next year and I know I will learn so many new things.
Blogging brings together many types of talents. Marketing, art, photography, writing, technical, to name a few. It is an all-encompassing hodge-podge of awesome. I love it!
Thank you, Tara, I loved that question!
I Am So Amazed By The Great Questions So Far!
Amélie asks this question:
What are the biggest fashion faux-pas beyond 40?
Ah, yes, a great question to ask!
This is something I am asked often. I have read a lot about this topic as well. My answer may be a bit different from others.
To me, the biggest fashion faux-pas past forty are dressing too old or limiting oneself.
We are over 40 but that does not mean we have lost our personalities. Getting older does not mean we have to dress frumpier, nor that we can’t have fun.
My belief is that if it is tacky at 40 it is probably tacky at 20 as well. Everyone should learn to understand what looks best on their body type. All ages should try different styles to determine what fashions look best on them. Most important what we feel best in!
I am not one to say a 50-year-old can’t wear a mini skirt! Tina Turner would prove us wrong on that one! She has the confidence, and legs to pull it off! Saying a woman over 40 should not wear this, or that would be like saying anyone under 40 should not wear boho fashion.
The Boho trend is just an extension of what we were wearing in the 70’s. Boho is the new Hippy! No one should wear anything that makes them feel foolish. Obviously, no one should wear a sequin party dress to church.
The limits on fashion should only pertain to situation and circumstance. Confidence and Relevance. Not age.
Thank you, Amélie! I had fun answering that one!
What are your favorite topics to blog about?
Ironically there are topics I enjoy writing about before fashion! I hate to admit it but I have a full disclosure policy with my readers. Writing about empowerment and health as well as pets are my top three favorite topics to write about.
The reason for this is that when it comes to health we all need as much information as we can get!
When it comes to empowerment/enlightenment, this is a topic I know a lot about from my work as a life coach.
I want to help others and reach out to those who need a pick me up.
Pets, well, anyone who has furkids knows why I love writing about pets. The animals in this family are family, not just pets. When your kids grow up and move out of the house, pets fill that void. I have always been an animal lover so writing about pets was simply organic for me.
I also enjoy writing my Happiness Is articles. This is a series that are sometimes silly and fun, other times empowering or enlightening. I love this series because it can be anything I want it to be. This series often highlight things going on in my life so I can be more personal with my readers. Much like this article. Always, however, Happiness Is brings forth those little things in life that make me happy.
I show respect, appreciation, and thankfulness in these articles.
Writing about fashion is still a passion though! As are all of the topics on my blog.
That was fun to answer. Thank you, Jess!
What is your favorite part about blogging!
A popular question and since Tara asked the same I will expand a bit more on that.
I think every blogger enjoys the perks of blogging. We do receive a lot of cool stuff! I would never say I do not love this part of being a blogger. What a lot of people do not realize however is the “stuff” comes with oodles of work! As the saying goes: “Nothing in life is free”, this is the case for bloggers.
Since I pride myself on working extra hard for my brands, I spend an equal time on each article, from the writing stage to the promoting of it. I won’t get into the details that have not already been covered.
Making my living blogging is another thing that is a favorite part. I could never go back out into the world and work for someone else. That I can be at home, on my own terms, taking the jobs I want, passing on those I do not, is a favorite part of blogging for sure! I only have to work with the brands I personally love and trust. In another job I may have to deal with situations I do not have personal faith in.
I used to work in Public Relations and Marketing. I have been in positions where I had to promote things I did not feel a kinship with. As a self-employed blogger, it’s all for me to decide where my energy and effort go.
Thanks, Jamie! I am glad I got to expand on that!
Crystal asked me:
Is SEO important to you as a blogger?
Oh so very much!
I am still learning every day how to use SEO correctly. I am far from being fluent in SEO! Sometimes I am embarrassed at my own ignorance!
Blogging is absolutely a humbling career path! One has to have a lot of humility to stick with it! Not only is SEO important but it is tricky! Sometimes, such as in an article like this, I simply can not live up to the rules of SEO. Using the proper keywords in the proper headings, something I have only recently been learning more about is difficult!
Bloggers have to be up to a good challenge, especially when it comes to the technical side of things like SEO. This is one reason I said above that I wish I had done more research before starting this blog. I would still have started it. I just would not be in the position I am now of having to go back and make corrections to all of my articles.
Thank you, Crystal, that was a timely question!
What was your childhood like?
Well, that is a can of worms haha!
A lot of my earlier years are a blur. Having Type 1 Diabetes in the early 70’s was, to say the least, difficult. We did not have the medical technology we have now. In fact, it is amazing that my mother was able to push for a diagnosis when I was only 19 months old! Testing blood sugars were just coming onto the market for the general public and were far from accurate.
Image from LoriCruit “Being a Type 1 Diabetic in the 1970’s“
Nowadays we have excellent methods of regulating our diabetes. With that said, having poorly controlled blood sugars is like being high. Not that any of you know what that feels like haha. I have scattered memories of my childhood up until my early teens. After that diabetes tech got better as did my blood sugars. I do want to note what a wonderful job my mother and grandmother did keeping me healthy! I have no idea how they kept me alive! Thank you, mom and grandma!
In my teens, I was creative and active. I played softball and was a wind-up pitcher. Other activities I was into included gymnastics, dance, playing the flute and participating in live theater. I also rode and trained horses participating in our local rodeos barrel racing and pole bending. I was also a little “wild”.
My family was in the food industry owning and operating their own restaurants. I often worked at the restaurants. This is where I learned to be a good cook!
Thank you for asking Susan!
Was it hard starting your blog?
My first blog was not because it was directly aimed at my own clients. It was not a business unto itself, nor was I trying to monetize it. I was purely writing articles to answer questions my clients were already asking. I was not concerned with the technical side of things, using proper SEO, or even how great the blog looked, although I did attempt to make it eye pleasing. It was all 100% educational and informational and from the heart.
Fashion Beyond Forty is also very much from the heart and I still aim to inform, educate, and empower my readers. I still very much care about the message over the technical side of things. Truth is, however, especially in this day and age, SEO is king, and if I do not learn how to use the tech side of things, I will become lost among all the other great bloggers! Back when I was writing my spiritual blog there was not as much competition to be seen.
Fashion Beyond Forty, unlike my spiritual blog also works with brands. On my past blog there was no “brand” outside of myself as a life coach and spiritual advisor.
Starting this blog was not difficult but I do wish I had done a few things differently from the get go. The one thing I would say I wish I had done from the beginning was to start my blog on WordPress instead of Blogger!
Moving over to WordPress changed my life as a blogger. So if anything, by not doing so did make it harder on myself.
Thank you, Donna! Great question!
Sicorra Asked me:
I know you have lost a lot of weight in the last year or so. Can you share three key changes that you made to your routine that helped you lose the weight?
This is an excellent question Sicorra. You will be happy to know that I am working on a blog post dedicated to this very question. It is something I am piecing together right now and I hope to have it on the blog soon.
For now, let me break it down into the 3 key changes you asked for:
Do not say, or think, “I want to lose weight.” Instead put forward the manifestation: “I am losing weight”.
Cut out sugar.
No soda! Change the type of sweet treats you consume. Fresh berries with whipped cream over cake for example.
This last one, I know all of you get sick of hearing. I have said it on the blog here a million times:
Water! Lots and lots of water! Scientific research shows that our brain can perceive hunger when truly we are thirsty! Outside of the other many reasons to be well hydrated from anti-aging benefits to skin care – water is called “life juice” in our home.
I promise to have a full article on this soon! Thank you for the great question Sicorra!
So that is it! Thank you all for the amazing Q & A session. Each of you really made me sit back and think hard about my answers. I hope that I have provided some insight into myself, and Fashion Beyond Forty.
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