There is a lot of pressure on women to look their best, even if they are not feeling their best.
We all struggle with deadlines, appointments, schedules, not just our own but everyone else’s too!
We juggle jobs, kids, spouses, pets, responsibilities and so on.
Looking fashionable or beautiful can be a struggle.
No One Should Feel Pressure To Look Perfect
Sometimes I don’t even have a minute in the day to do my hair.
I often have to decide if I will spend more time on my makeup, or my hair, if I get time for any of it at all.
Granted I write a fashion blog, but I also write for the average woman.
I am not writing for women who have stylists, or who can spend hours at the spa.
I’m writing for women who want to look their best, but also need to feel great about themselves when they do not.
Often I have witnessed women who have given up.
Because they struggle with self-esteem, aging, or weight issues, they totally tune out when it comes to looking nice.
They say they don’t care about how they look.
For some, perhaps this is true.
Some people really do not care and yet still have a strong self-worth.
However more often than not, I am seeing more women who do care, simply give up.
The fact is, whatever you have zeroed in on that is not looking perfect today, is probably only noticeable to you and you alone.
Sure it is perfectly okay to know we need to work on something.
That could be our abs, our shoe wardrobe, or tossing out old makeup that has probably taken on a life of its own.
We should accept and admit when we need to eat healthier, lose a few pounds, or tone our tummies ( me ).
Whatever you are worried about, don’t allow it to define everything about you.
Don’t Allow Pressure To Define You!
Just enjoy what you have perfected thus far!
Today my hair would not do a thing I wanted it to do.
I am in a transitional phase with my hair but you know what … that’s okay!
I am going to own it and let it do what it needs to do until it has worked through this phase.
Then I can do what I am working toward with it.
What I am happy with right now is that even on a bad day I have my wardrobe organized.
I have it to a point that even in the dark, I can fumble around and find something that is cohesive.
Since my husband sometimes works nights, sleeping during the day, I must do this often.
Even during the day, our room is dark due to room darkening curtians.
I think it is important to give ourselves credit where credit is due.
Your personal achievement may be that you are sticking to a work out schedule, eating healthier, or taking better care of your cuticles and nails.
Feeling beautiful, feeling good about ourselves is far more important than what we wear, or how large our makeup collection has become.
Feeling that way involves self-acceptance, acceptance of ourselves flaws and all!
Pressure To Look Perfect We Place On Ourselves:
Sure we want to continually work toward improving ourselves in whatever aspect of our lives we desire.
It is not a bad thing in and of itself to acknowledge what we can use improvement on.
However, putting ourselves down should not be on the list of permissible things we do.
Beauty truly does come from within.
The more we acknowledge ourselves for our positive traits the more we will shine on the outside.
Instead of saying “I am fat” try saying “I am working toward a weight loss goal, but I sure have improved my work out routine!”
Turn your statements into a more positive tone.
I discuss this way of thinking deeper in the article Law Of Attraction: The “I Am” Versus The “I Will Be” Mentality.
End your statements with something empowering rather than dismissive toward yourself.
So retrain your brain to rid yourself of negative mental clutter and instead manifest positive thought process.
Love yourself, ladies!