Ah a new year, a new beginning.
A new year can just be another chance to make the same mistakes.
Or in the case of having a great prior year a chance to do good all over again.
Sitting back, and giving some real in-depth thought to just who we are.
Take Time To Define Yourself:
I have an about me page on the blog and a bio on the right-hand sidebar.
Often I have to write out a short bio or about me for other media outlets.
Doing this is always a challenge because more often than not I am bound by a word or character limit.
Being pithy has never been a strong point of mine.
Just how much or how little one says about themselves can mean a lot.
I think that even if you do not have a need to write a bio, it’s a good idea to take some time and write the story of you.
Writing things down about yourself can lead toward insight you may not already have.
Just the other day I realized something about myself…
Define Yourself By Admitting What You No Longer Enjoy:
I have said many times, in many bios, interviews, and media profiles that I enjoy reading.
Yet the truth is, I rarely make the time to read a book.
I do love books.
I love libraries.
Heck, I used to work in one!
Images of gorgeous home libraries on Instagram with rich wood shelves and leather bound books galore excites me.
I even love the smell of old musty books.
The truth is I love the idea of books.
Yet reading, not so much, at least not anymore.
It’s not that I do not appreciate a great story.
Just right now, at this time in my life, there are other things I would rather put that time into.
Define Yourself By Being Specific:
Have you ever noticed when people say, or list what interests them that they are very generic?
“I enjoy reading”, or “I am into the outdoors” for example.
Even in my sidebar bio, I say I adore nature.
The fact is we could get far more detailed.
By being more detailed we give deeper insight into who we are.
Granted, there is limited room on a blog sidebar bio to express oneself.
Perhaps we do not want to express to the entire world what exactly we enjoy reading or doing outside.
Yet by writing it down, even if only for yourself, it surely can help to define who you are to the most important person, YOU.
Try stating your interests in detail.
Instead of stating: “I enjoy reading” perhaps you could say “I enjoy reading historical fiction during the 1500’s.”
If you would normally say “I love watching movies” perhaps you could state that enjoy watching sci-fi or romantic comedies.
Define Yourself By Taking Stock:
I have been taking quite a bit of time over the past two weeks to redefine myself.
Sometimes we change as people, sometimes people change us.
Other times, circumstances and life experiences shift who we are.
These changes can be both positive and negative.
That is why it is important to always be working on taking stock of the person we have become, and are becoming.
It is good to recognize where we are at in the now.
To ask ourselves if the person we are in the moment is the person we want to be.
If the person we are putting outward to the world is due to our own choices, or outside influences.
When Defining Yourself Always Write It Down:
The main advice I can give having worked with clients on defining themselves through life coaching is to always write it down.
I guide my clients to spend as many days as they need thinking about this topic.
Taking notes here and there if they need help remembering details.
Ultimately, however, writing things down is necessary.
There is something to be said about putting pen to paper.
There is some kind of spiritual transformation that happens when we write.
In addition, when we read what we have written, it’s impacting.
This is why so many people take up journaling.
Writing out our own personal “road map” if you will, helps us stay on track, and remain accountable.
If you think about it, writing a roadmap is not too far different from the idea of a vision board.
I recently wrote about these in depth as well which you can check out using the link above.
The vision board uses images and here I am asking you to use words.
Vision boards are more generalized usually showcasing an idea.
Writing your personal roadmap can get down to the real nitty-gritty.
The Point Of Defining Yourself:
So why bother with any of this?
I honestly believe we lose ourselves so easily in the hustle of today’s society.
Between social media and ads hitting us square in the face from left and right we need to appreciate our own minds.
From the opinions of others, for that matter even blogs like my own, we often forget our own opinions, beliefs, and ideals.
Self-evaluation is key to being the person we want to be.
Whether we are happy with who we are or want to become a better version of ourselves, without reflection and a roadmap, it’s easy to lose our way.
When we do falter it is good to have our plan written out, in our own handwriting, and our own words.
This will remind us where we got off track and how to get right back on it.
I would love to hear your thoughts.
Perhaps you already journal or have a different way in which you define yourself.
Please leave me a comment and share your ideas and thoughts.