The other day it almost slipped past my lips again…
The term “Real Women”.
I do not like that term and do not want to use it!
We are all real women.
Sure some women wear wigs.
Some of us dye our hair.
Others have had “work” done.
Yet, we are all women.
We are all real women!
Whether we paint our nails ( not natural ), or we have had our eyebrows tattoed on.
These things do not make us fake women.
They are simply elements we have enhanced or altered.
I think whatever a woman wants to do to her body, be that piercing, or even a perm if it makes her feel good, it’s alright with me.
I mean we can get really nitpicky right?
We can be super hard on ourselves even more so when we hit midlife.
The last thing we should do is be hard on ourselves or others.
If we are to demean a woman for having breast implants why not demean those who wear Spanx?
I do love that recently some makeup brands are electing to let us know when airbrushing is done.
Have you heard about that?
I think it’s great!
Most adult women know this has been done for ages but young girls do not automatically know!
They grow up with a false sense of what a beautiful woman should look like.
I think being transparent is just fair.
Airbrushing is fake indeed and gives us a false sense of what we all should look like.
It’s true, even for us adults who know it’s airbrushed!
We still are affected so why shouldn’t younger more vulnerable girls be?
I can elect to go get pierced, hair styled, eyebrows done, nails did, tummy tucked.
We can decide to get our teeth whitened and get cosmetic dental repairs.
I can not elect to walk out my door airbrushed.
There is no reason to fault a woman for having Botox if we are not going to fault those who wear fake eyelashes.
Unless you are literally a woman who goes 100% all natural all the way, including no bra, then we should all be equally supportive of all women.
To those who do go 100% all natural, more power to you!
I could never be part of a nudist colony though.
I am too shy, but hey clothing is not technically “natural” either is it?
You see, ladies, we are our own worst critics.
Yet we are also very critical of other women aren’t we?
I myself am critical at times too.
Of myself and other women.
Even after years of practice of not saying the phrase “real women” it still at times almost passes my lips.
It’s just human nature I suppose.
I write about self-love often on Fashion Beyond Forty but I thought it was time to write about loving each other as women.
We need to band together, strong and united!
When we stop putting others down for trying to lift themselves up we can all be a part of a larger, more powerful sisterhood.
Feel good about yourselves, natural or not because we have enough battles to fight out in the world.
If you want to dye your armpit hair – have fun and do it!
Want to put fur on your fingernails, go for it!
You are not hurting me or anyone else so don’t let people put you down.
Heck, I remember back when having a tattoo or piercing was ridiculed.
These days women who work in offices have them!
I am not saying that some of these fads will stick around.
It used to be that there was a whole aisle at stores full of perms for hair.
These days the only place to get a prem is at the beauty parlor or an actual hair salon shop.
And perms lasted for 2 decades!
The point is, we do a lot of cool things, a lot of silly things, and sometimes some really bizarre things.
All of this is in the name of self-expression and beauty.
Whatever you think is beautiful will make you feel beautiful and when you feel good that is all that matters.
Let each other shine in their own light and perhaps they will share that light with you.
What do you think?
What is too “out there” in your opinion?
Do you think that some things limit a lady from deserving the title of a “real woman?”
Let me know in the comments, I love to hear from you!