If you haven’t read my article from yesterday it’s a bit of a precursor to this article. The transformation of my blog is explained there, but not entirely. You see, there is one more element that pushed me to rebrand my blog and in some ways, myself. It all started back in November of 2017 when my husband did a shocking 180. My life would be changed forever, but I had no idea at the time just how good that would end up being for me. Today’s article Five Fierce Months So Far In 2018 will explain more.
Five Fierce Months So Far In 2018:
It took me a couple of months to get my head around everything.
Why he left, the lies, the cheating, the mistress, my part in all of it, and so on.
Then, it took awhile before I had my verification.
Verification of what I already knew to be true despite his
Not that this verification came directly from him, that can never happen because a habitual liar just can’t be honest.
I pity him and feel sorry for her even though she did something horrible to a fellow woman.
Sadly, this is a lifelong pattern for him.
One he has almost identically carried out his entire adult life.
Women sometimes fool themselves into thinking they can be the one to change a man for the better.
It just does not work that way.
It will be a sad day when she realizes this for herself.
A sad day for her and her four children who will also be affected, the way mine are.
Regardless, all of that aside, my husband leaving was indeed the best thing for me.
Getting back to who I am and being me again was not only healthy, it in some ways spurred the change to my blog.
So far 2018 has been a real eye-opener.
This month I turn 49 and I am going into it fiercely!
As I looked over the past five months on Fashion Beyond Forty – leading up to my rebrand to Fierce Beyond Forty, I see the changes in myself that predicted the transition.
Here are a few of those highlights…
Five Fierce Months So Far In 2018:
Looking forward to the BlogPaws conference really helped me stay focused.
There was so much to do to prepare and the months leading up to it were a whirlwind.
I wrote the following article in January.
Right after a rather bleak holiday season.
After that in February, I literally wrote about how BlogPaws saved me.
I am not saying I wouldn’t have got through it all without BlogPaws.
Fierce women always find a way, but it sure did help!
January was only the first of my five fierce months!
In February, my daughter and I had a great time visiting a local gardening nursery while she also shot the images for this post:
My husband never could “adult” when it came to my children.
No, my kids are not perfect and they do have some fairly intense issues.
I wish him well with his lady love’s four kids.
They are all rather young still and will certainly face struggles of their own.
It’s so pathetic when a man can’t freely love and give support.
Especially when being a great step-father was literally part of his self-written wedding vows.
The fact is, the first time he began to pull away from my kids, I should have kicked him to the curb.
We are all still learning in life, even me!
The day these photos were taken was one of the first times since he left that I felt fierce again.
The day I realized I could get back out into the world as the fierce woman I am!
That was my second of five fierce months.
In March I realized there would be a lot of things he used to do that would now fall on me.
It’s not that I did not already realize it as much as I had to really start doing it!
Beyond of the inside household duties he normally took care of, the outside was calling my name.
Yet, I was not alone!
My mother, who he also had high levels of disdain for, came through as she always does.
That month I realized while it may not be easy, with the help of my mother, the fiercest woman I know, I could accomplish anything.
Since then I have also accomplished a lot of cool things on my own as well.
Things that I did not think I could do on my own because I had never had to.
Other things I did not attempt to do because “he could do it better”.
It’s funny how even an empowered woman like myself can allow herself to be disempowered by a controlling man!
The fact is ladies, sometimes the control sneaks up on you!
Even though I have worked helping others for decades on not allowing themselves to be disempowered, it does happen!
This is why I have learned to never judge others!
As soon as you judge someone, you find yourself in that same situation.
So March was another one of my five fierce months so far this year.
Happiness is not always easy so I was thrilled to find out that April included International Day Of Happiness.
That spurred the following article and a plan for planning out happiness!
It was my hopes that I could help others live happier lives by writing this article and creating the printable.
I know planning out my own calendar helped me.
In the article, I listed out a lot of thought-starters of simple ways to increase happiness.
Happiness is similar to fierceness, it need not be difficult.
One does not have to do extreme things to be happy or fierce.
So April was month four out of five fierce months.
That brings us to May, where we are now.
I tell you ladies, this has been my best month so far and it’s only beginning!
Maybe it is not modest of me but I am so dang proud of myself and the creation of this Mosaic Tile Cabinet.
My Fifth Fierce Month:
There is more to it than meets the eye.
You see, DIY was something my husband and I did together, always.
It was our shared love.
Tinkering in the garage was “our thing”.
So to go it alone gave me mixed feelings.
At the end of it all though, I sure felt accomplished!
To date, it is my favorite DIY project, even more so than the cool light fixture we made as a couple.
I admit, the light fixture is pretty badass but now it hangs over my bed as a reminder of “us”.
Not gonna lie, that bugs me a little.
I just have to remember, he may have helped build it, but it was all my design!
I have always been the brains behind our operation.
Nope, not a modest statement but it is a fierce one and the truth.
Why I Am Talking About My Five Fierce Months:
Because ladies, you need to know, to be reminded, that no matter what crap life may dump you, you are fierce!
DIY may not be your thing, fashion may not even be your thing.
You need to pull on the resources, the people, and the things you love to lay your claim on your own power.
Yes, I am still healing.
Healing is a very long process that should not be rushed.
Yet, healing can take on so many various forms.
Everything above is just samples of some of the ways in which I have been healing over the past five fierce months of my life.
My battle march goes on, to the beat of my own loud banging drum!
The only person I am battling, however, is myself.
It’s not a battle to win or lose, but one that will reclaim all of me, the whole of me.
A battle for self!
If I chose to be who I once was, or do a total overhaul and reinvent myself – it’s all up to me.
It’s all up to you who you become as well.
Each day of your life will shape you.
Make each day count!
As I said in yesterday’s article things have a funny way of coming full circle.
So now you have a little more insight into my rebranding.
It’s not just the blog being rebranded.
I am rebranding myself as well.
It may be time for a new tattoo now that I think of it.
A branding of myself in my own damn way.
Perhaps the word FIERCE, in bold, on my shoulder.
That will have to wait, I am still struggling financially
a bit, a lot.
It will happen though and I will be sure to show it to all of you right here on Fierce Beyond Forty!
Leave me a comment, please, I love hearing from my readers!
How will you have a fierce month of May?
What do you think being fierce means?
Have you ever been let down by another person?
How did you pull through your experience?
What would you tell a friend going through a divorce to inspire them?
In what small ways can a woman be fierce every day?