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You’ve heard the saying… “Taking The Good With The Bad”.

Sometimes in life things happen in a nature of cohesion that is at the same time in extreme opposition.

Right now, in my life, something really amazing is happening, yet at the same time something really horrible is going on.

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While I do believe in being open to you all and I eventually share details with you, my readers, I also have to give myself time to wrap my own head around things.

Due to not having time yet, I am not ready to share details.

In addition, some things need to fully play out.

I have no idea what direction either situation will take so it all may become nothing to share at all.

What I can share with you, however, is that one part of me is very joyful, and yet another part is deeply saddened.

Sometimes we are going about our day to day life and something just falls out of the sky and hits us over the head like an anvil.

Other times, we are feeling like everything is working our way!

We are feeling on top of the world figuratively skipping through fields of lilacs living the dream.

Then when that anvil drops, it hits ten times as hard.

Taking The Good With The Bad, The Balance:

This is where I recently found myself.

More than a wakeup call it is a reminder that even when bad things happen around us, to us, or to those we love, there is still hope.

Life is about balance.

Being able to see the positive even in the midst of negative.

On one hand, I have a situation with much promise and joy.

On the other, doom and gloom.

The key to getting through feeling bad about being happy when something outside of ourselves is going wrong is to accept.

Accept that we are not in control of everything or everyone.

Being able to accept that we deserve happiness even if other things in life are difficult.

Not to feel guilty for being optimistic about one situation while sad about another.

We have to be able to segment one situation from another.

A Good Lesson From The Men:

This is where we ladies can take a lesson from men!

Men are generally quite great at segmenting their emotions.

Us ladies tend to ball everything up into one heaping pile.

If we are sad we are sad about everything.

When we are angry we are angry about everything, and so on.

Guys, on the other hand, can seem to take bad news and put it in a tidy little corner of their minds allowing them to focus, and even enjoy life in other areas.

For some of us women, it is irritating because we wonder if they are truly even impacted by the bad news.

As if because they do not “feel” the way we feel, and present their emotions in the way that we do, they must not have those emotions.

There is nothing further from the truth.

They do “feel” and they do grieve, and even sometimes fall apart, just like us.

Yet, we can learn from them to muster up the courage, the strength, and the fortitude to allow ourselves the joy in those other areas!

Feeling Bad For Feeling Good, Is, Bad.

It serves us no purpose and takes away our power.

We all deserve happiness ladies, no matter what!

One thing I have had to learn, and it is a cold hard muther of a lesson, is to walk away!

Refuse to beat yourself up!

Do not let anyone cause you to spin your wheels!

Stop second guessing your gut instincts!

Be capable of letting the light shine in!

Understand, we all have our baggage and our issues.

All of us!

Your doctor, your lawyer, your therapist, even your life coach have problems.

That is life.

It’s not the idea of if we have issues or not, it’s how we choose to handle them that matters.

The key to being happy is being able to allow the joy in life to trickle through the cracks of darkness.

In the immortal words of one of my favorite musicians, Leonard Cohen:

“There is a crack, a crack in everything

That’s how the light gets in.”

Remember ladies, the crap can reign down but we can still push through anything!

Focus on the joy that life does certainly offer.

There is never so much darkness that we can’t see some light through the cracks.

I would love to hear from you in the comments.

Are you struggling with anything right now?

How do you push through the bad times?

What brings you joy even in the midst of despair?

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  1. June 27, 2018 / 11:09 am

    This is such a powerful post. Too many times, we think that we can’t have good – that we can’t move forward – without invalidating the things that we sacrificed or were sacrificed for us or that life just took away. That’s just not true.

  2. June 27, 2018 / 2:27 pm

    I think this balance is so good, finding the joy in good things and learning from the difficult things. I like that you mention not feeling guilty, no one can tell you how to feel. There is no “right” or “wrong” way. I hope your exciting situation continues to bring you happiness and that your tough situation resolves itself.

    • June 27, 2018 / 11:03 pm

      Emily thank you so much and there is no right or wrong way, just the way we need to move forward. I really appreciate that you wish me the best.

  3. June 27, 2018 / 6:34 pm

    This is such a good post! I think it’s always so important to find the joy in the good things going on in our life.

    • June 27, 2018 / 11:04 pm

      Thank you so much Leah. It’s finding those things that helps us get through the hard times for sure.

  4. June 27, 2018 / 9:53 pm

    This is great! I love hearing about others finding joy in their life, it helps remind me to let things go and be joyful!

    • June 27, 2018 / 11:04 pm

      Absolutely Trina! We have to embrace those precious moments while they are there for us.

  5. June 28, 2018 / 6:22 am

    This situation sounds so familiar to me. I relate it to the excitement and the adventure of moving to another state you’ve never lived in before, to leaving all that you love about the place you live in. There is both happiness and sadness and its hard for our minds to wrap around both feelings. It actually took me about a year to fully work through.

    • July 5, 2018 / 4:35 pm

      That is such a great way to look at it!
      I am glad you worked it through and can now enjoy your new home!

  6. June 28, 2018 / 7:26 am

    I completely understand having to process things fully before sharing. If what we are doing and how we are changing isn’t wrong, there’s no need to feel the guilt whether things are great or crazy hard!

  7. June 28, 2018 / 11:47 am

    I was just laid off work about a month ago. I’m having to find another job. What excites me is that the one I’m interviewing for I think I will actually like more than the one I had. It’s been tough though. Hugs!

    • July 5, 2018 / 4:36 pm

      So sorry being laid off is never fun or easy! I do hope that you get the job you want and that it is better! Sometimes things just happen for a reason and we just do not realize it at the time. I hope this is the case for you!

  8. June 28, 2018 / 8:02 pm

    A lot of people really do have this issue. I am thankful for the lessons I have learned.

  9. June 28, 2018 / 8:05 pm

    This post is seriously going to help someone. I have to show my sister.

  10. June 28, 2018 / 11:24 pm

    I’ve been through this. I suffered from surgery complications and I wasn’t able to work full time for the past 8 months. I feel better now, but still struggling to find a good balance in my life.

    • July 5, 2018 / 4:31 pm

      I am so glad you are feeling better but I do know the road to recovery can be a long one. Make sure to give yourself the down time you need.

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